I came across this excellent article on pornography’s deadening effect on the male libido. I have never been a big fan of Naomi Wolf, and certainly she is still missing some of the pieces. But she gets it with porn, and the article is dead-on when she states the following:
“The onslaught of porn is responsible for deadening male libido in relation to real women, and leading men to see fewer and fewer women as “porn-worthy.” Far from having to fend off porn-crazed young men, young women are worrying that as mere flesh and blood, they can scarcely get, let alone hold, their attention.”
“…a powerful erotic bond between parents is a key element of a strong family. And feminists have misunderstood many of these prohibitions.”
“Here is what young women tell me on college campuses when the subject comes up: They can’t compete, and they know it. For how can a real woman—with pores and her own breasts and even sexual needs of her own (let alone with speech that goes beyond “More, more, you big stud!”)—possibly compete with a cybervision of perfection, downloadable and extinguishable at will, who comes, so to speak, utterly submissive and tailored to the consumer’s least specification?…Today, real naked women are just bad porn.”
There is a whole other dimension about college student sex that is equally destructive of intimacy that Wolf seems not to have tapped into yet. However, she’s a work in progress, as are we all. Her observations from the college student population play out ever more destructively in marriage.
However, it’s worth noting that young women feel they can’t compete with porn. One would expect that lament from women a few decades down the line, but if 20 year-olds can’t compete with other women the same age, then that’s a whole new dimension of pathology.
Read the rest of this powerful treatise. The best I’ve seen in a long time. Here’s a teaser, her ending is the most powerful Christian take on sex you’ll ever see in New York Magazine!
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