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Our Sons and Daughters

January 18, 2010 by Gerard M. Nadal

Little girls are unburdened. There is a lightness about little girls in those golden years before adolescence that is unmistakeable. Its unblemished beauty is like a rose bud, with all of the promise of the splendor about to unfold.

A florist once shared that rose buds exposed to a sudden and extreme chill will not open. They wither in their unrevealed potential.

So it is when youth is corrupted, when our daughters and sons are lured into sex before they have established their own ego boundaries, when sex forges bonds that youth cannot sustain, when the inevitable is heartache-and often times worse. Their blossoming is interrupted by confusion, anger, guilt and shame. The inability to sustain the powerful bonds created by sex leads to feelings of inadequacy and isolation, self-reproach and depression.

The very people holding themselves out as the solution have been the problem all along. Planned Parenthood is aggressive in its efforts to cut our sons and daughters off from trusting in us, playing to their youthful cravings for autonomy. They and their fellow travelers in the Culture of Death have for too long pumped them full of estrogens, stuffed their pockets full of condoms, and lured them to abort their babies when the inevitable contraceptive failure occurred. In the process they have filled them with a false sense of security and left them utterly unprepared for the emotional and spiritual fallout. The girls are not the only ones to suffer.

Contrary to popular belief, boys are not aloof. It’s an act. Boys are as devastated in a breakup as girls. The macho act is just that: whistling past the graveyard. But is the damage irreparable?

Blessedly no for most of it.

It starts by focussing on the true meaning of purity. I’ve treated this in other posts, notably Purity and Play and in, Of Bridal Veils and Little Girls.

Purity of heart, mind, body and soul is the very essence of a child’s spiritual rhythms. It isn’t that sex is dirty, it’s that the beauty of sex is caught up in an entirely different set of rhythms; those of radical self-donation to one’s spouse. It is the inability to deliver on the promises made in physical union that becomes dysrhythmic, and psychologically destabilizing. Sex is a great good that many parents themselves have not always seen or honored as such.

So, first we must reconcile with our past and with God. Then we must be ceaseless witnesses to the great good of sex, appealing to the bonds of love and intimacy created during sex as one of the exclusive goods of marriage. Those who have been sexually active will intuitively grasp that portion of the message.

Young people know how pathetic older adults look when they try to be cool, using the slang of teens; they get what dysrhythmic means when presented objectively in the reversal of roles. They also get it, and are relieved when they are brought to understand that they are simply not ready to deliver on the depth of the promises made in sex. These powerful emotional realities, properly explained, demystify for teens what has been to that point a nebulous angst.

Properly restored to their rhythms they become unburdened again, the unfolding of their potential restored in its function and beauty.

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  1. on January 18, 2010 at 4:13 PM Siarlys Jenkins

    I remember thinking that when I was in sixth grade. I saw second grade girls walking around the playground at my elementary school with a favorite teacher, and thought, how said that when they get to my age, they are going to be like the girls my age. And that was pretty tame, it was like 1966.

    Every adolescent is still going to make choices, and some of them will be mistakes, and I don’t favor ruthlessly depriving them of all back-up and protection, but we need to develop a culture that you can take your time, you can develop slowly, you can try things out one step at a time, and you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing just because everyone else is doing this now.

    Someone once said “You individuals are all alike.”

    Even if not everyone chooses purity, it is good even for those who don’t that there are those who do.


  2. on January 18, 2010 at 10:47 PM Mary Catherine

    Contrary to popular belief, boys are not aloof. It’s an act. Boys are as devastated in a breakup as girls. The macho act is just that: whistling past the graveyard.

    yes I do believe boys suffer during breakups

    I also think the reason girls suffer more though, is because girls are more emotionally integrated than boys.
    They act the way they feel. Boys do not.


  3. on January 19, 2010 at 3:05 PM Janet

    “So it is when youth is corrupted, when our daughters and sons are lured into sex before they have established their own ego boundaries, when sex forges bonds that youth cannot sustain, when the inevitable is heartache-and often times worse.”

    Gerard,
    I think the concept of “boundaries” is important for all of us to think about. I doubt it was a term our parents used during our upbringings. Mine didn’t. Several years ago I read several books by Henry Cloud and and John Townsend on the subject of boundaries (for children, in marriage, etc). They were very helpful.


  4. on January 19, 2010 at 3:26 PM Asitiss

    I like the idea of boundaries too Janet. Something I gradually learned by having teenagers is that they will eventually set their own boundaries. We hope they mirror the ones that we have set for them.



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