Vicki Thorn
Fellow Columnist at Headline Bistro, Vicki Thorn has written a stunner on post-abortive men and the process.
Abortion Pain is Gender-Blind
by Vicki Thorn
Men quietly sit in abortion clinic waiting rooms, or they pace around mulling over their decision. Or they don’t go at all. They wait.
More and more people are becoming aware that men are not stoically unaffected by a woman’s choice to keep or abort a child. In fact, these men, who are often in the background as a women chooses to have an abortion or not, experience a sort of collateral damage.
I can see it in my life and the life of my husband. The decisions that we made, the broken marriage, broken children. I have been married for 37 years, the first 5 years of marriage was “his way or no way”, the next 13 years was “my way or the highway”, but the last 13 years it has been “God’s way!” During the years of “Our way”lead us down the road of abortions, 3 of them.
We were both trapped into the lie and it carried like a plague into our future, infecting our 2 children that I actually gave birth to. I would like to say that not only does it effect women and men, it affects the children left behind(siblings).
The media and the Pro-choicer’s would have you believe that abortion is not a big deal, that they are here to help you, that is the first lie. The second lie is, that life will be better, you will be back to normal and that you can resume your life and have children later, but part of both these lies, comes the evilness,destruction, brokenness and of who is going to help us now!
So I ask where is PP and those abortion mills now? I believe millions of men and women are hurting from those abortions. I am only one voice and I will not remain Silent and will use my voice and Outcry to the world that this
barrack use of destroying our children must stop!!
Pati I hope you find healing, consolation and peace.
Sadly, some lessons are learned the hard way. 😦
Pati,
Thank you for sharing part of your story. I can imagine the road being very difficult to travel at times, but am so happy to hear you’ve accepted God and His beautiful plan for your lives. Post-abortive families are in my daily prayers. I am please to now have a name for whom to especially pray. My hope is for you and your husband to find courage to share your experience with the youth of this country.
God has blessed you with and enduring and blossoming marriage. Where many would have forfeited, you have persevered and have become bound so much stronger for it. Thank you for being an important witness to marriage! May God continue to develop your voice.
But according to Thorn, women like Pati need men to amplify their voices:
“But when men are healed, they change the culture in a very real ways; ways that are different from the ways women are changing it. They go out into the culture and speak about what happened, and then they use their time and talent and treasure to make a difference. We need to invest more energy and attention in the healing of men.”
Seriously?
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