I have had no shortage of emails from readers asking my opinion on gay marriage and how I see it relating to the pro-life movement. I’ve begged off of that question for months, knowing that my response will anger people on both sides of the debate. In prayerfully discerning the issue, I’ve decided to throw in my two cents, which is probably more than it’s worth.
First, I have castigated the gay community over Act-Up’s desecration of the Eucharist, St. Patrick’s Cathedral, and their unholy war of narcissistic rage against Cardinal O’Connor in a series entitled Of Cardinals, Cathedrals, Condoms and Cretins. Also, an article entitled Act Up and Narcissism as Art.
Next, I stand with the authentic Magisterium on marriage being between a man and woman. That said, our marriages are in a horrible state of repair, and Regina and I had some rocky, rocky road that almost claimed ours as well. It has been a long, grace-filled walk back from the edge. That we have states with marriage laws on the books is not exclusively, or even predominantly the fault of gays and lesbians.
Where we are today is arguing over a piece of paper and a name. The heterosexual community has systematically given away all of the goods and privileges of marriage to cohabiting heterosexuals and homosexuals alike. If we are outraged today at the thought that gays or lesbians could arrogate marriage to themselves, then I have some hard questions for heterosexuals:
Where were we when civil unions were legalized?
Where were we when gay adoptions were legalized?
Where were we when shared employee benefits for gays were legalized?
Where were we when sodomy laws were struck down?
Where were we when a host of other statutes on various rights were legalized?
The truth is that we have systematically given away all of the rights and privileges that society reserved for men and women who committed the rest of their lives to one another in an institution that predates the state which seeks to regulate it. In other words, we have given gays and lesbians marriage in everything but name only.
My question for heterosexuals opposed to gay marriage is this:
Are we willing to work to reclaim all of the goods of marriage and reserve them to heterosexually married people?
If we are not, then this is a nomenclature issue at this point, and nothing more.
I’ll reserve the application to the pro-life movement, pending feedback.