Today I received this email and prayer from a post-abortive mother, whose story is tragically the norm in Obstetrics. This is as damning an assessment about OB/Gyn as I have ever seen. This mom has graciously consented to my sharing her story with any who will take a moment and walk the road with her. Her identity will remain anonymous. Please take a moment and lift her up in your prayers.
Greetings Dr. Nadal … I’ve recently stumbled across your blog, and am quite impressed by its contents and depth of thought. If you have a moment to spare, I’m very interested in your thoughts regarding poor prenatal abortions. I’ve aborted a very much wanted pregnancy in the second trimester due to Trisomy 18. I was never fond of the “choice” then, and I still suffer the consequence of that “choice” now. It saddens me to think that the medical community whose mantra is to do no harm has become so callused as to the dignity of life that they feel they can choose who deserves to live or die. The medical profession has become nothing more than a scripted flowchart of if this, then do that. Pity the child whose prenatal tests result in termination. Once upon a time I thought that “high risk obstetrics” meant that these guys must really know their stuff to be able to handle the “hard” cases. Only now do I realize that “high risk obstetrics” is nothing more than a fancy term for abortionists to hide behind. I who had sought out the “best” doctors in the field have only later come to discover that not only are they members of the National Abortion Federation, but they also served as expert witnesses in the partial birth appeal in NY. Students in medical school are being brainwashed by abortionists who teach medical ethics under the guise of the Hippocratic Oath. What a sad world we live in.
A Mother’s Prayer
· I pray for the day that one can search the Participating Provider (PPO) section of their medical insurance plan and select an Obstetrician under either the Pro-choice or Pro-life category.
· I pray for the day that pre-natal testing is done for the purpose of saving lives rather than destroying lives and then later marveling at the wonders of medical technology to “find out in time.”
· I pray for the day that obstetricians present true options to a mother upon receiving an “incompatible with life” diagnosis. Don’t lead me down a scripted flowchart of “if this … then that … therefore terminate conclusion.” Humor me with “what-if” scenarios. I’ll be more than happy to select from option A, B or C and sign off on the appropriate disclaimer documentation that will keep you out of malpractice court.
· I pray for the day that the medical community realigns its efforts from “eliminating” the problem to “solving” the problem.
· I pray for the day that the medical community focuses on statistically measuring not how many lives were lost due to chromosomal abnormalities but rather on measuring how many lives can be saved from chromosomal abnormalities. (Is the glass half empty or is the glass half full?)
· I pray for the day that allowing an “incompatible with life” diagnosis to proceed through its natural course would be seen as an opportunity for study towards a solution. Analysis can’t be undertaken without subject material.
· I pray for the day that the disposition of a terminated fetus be given the dignity of a proper disposition and not be disposed of as part of “medical waste.”
· I pray for the day that obstetricians present the psychological risk factors of terminating a pregnancy. If I had known then that the grief of having killed my baby would outweigh the grief of a natural loss, I would like to think that I could have chosen differently. Given the current state of obstetrics, I don’t know if I could honestly say that.
The following message appeared in the combox, and I thought it deserved to be placed in the body of the post:
Dear Dr. Nadal,
I am so sorry this mother had to go through the pain of aborting her baby with t-18 and that was the only choice offered her. I run a support group for families who receive an adverse diagnosis before or after birth. We offer life-affirming support, information and encouragement to families. I know the pressure and how hard it is firsthand because I have a son with full t-18 who is 6 1/2 yrs. old. He is a great blessing and joy to his family and all who know him. Please ask this mom to contact us. We offer support for moms who have aborted also and can connect them with others who understand and resources to help. Please visit http://www.prenatalpartnersforlife.org or call 763-772-3868 for more info. Thank you for promoting life!
Director-Prenatal Partners for Life
The author has written more in depth about her experience on Lumina’s website:
Lumina a post abortion ministry of Good Counsel Homes, run by Theresa Bonopartis, has developed a specialized, “Entering Canaan” retreat for those who aborted due to an adverse diagnosis. They also have retreats for post-abortive mothers,which they co-developed with The Sisters of Life, and have expanded to do retreats with the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal for fathers, and siblings of aborted babies , which have become quite popular. The author made a Lumina Retreat and credits it for doing much good in her life. Check out Lumina at: