From the comments section on another post:
A reader named Ann left the following comment for me on another post. It is fraught with ambivalence and the attempt to convince herself that she is indeed a good person who promoted love and understanding, while supporting other’s choices in having abortions.
This is not an issue of not having one’s scientific facts straight. This is something very different, a phenomenon I have not seen discussed much within the pro-life movement, but one whose time has come. What is the experience that gives rise to pro-abortion sympathies? It isn’t a black heart in most instances, I believe. To me, it is a broken and wounded heart.
We need to study this scientifically, and begin to address this issue at its root. I’m open to any and all feedback. Here’s Ann, and my response:
Your use of “proabort” is really disturbing. Pro-choice people are not pro-abortion.
I find your views very narrow-minded and disturbing. I believe abortion is not a good thing, but I also believe personal religious beliefs should not dictate laws.
I hope you become more tolerant of the people in this country. I respect pro-life views, but I cannot respect the amount of hate it creates.
I have known a good friend, who comes from a religious background, who was in the saddening situation of teenage pregnancy. She told me that she simply forgot to take her birth control pill one day, just as easy to forget as losing your keys. She hated herself for being another teenage pregnancy statistic, and truly did not want to resort to abortion. She did, though. She knew she did not have the resources to raise a child and she mentally could not handle pregnancy at her age. She says she does not regret her decision. She is no longer with the same young man, and she is now in college. She certainly is not evil.
To be pro-choice is to be a supporter of the right of women to contract for the tearing apart of a baby in the safety and sanctity of its mother’s womb. Inasmuch as the very essence of the “choice” in pro-choice is the introduction of abortion as the legalized murder of other human beings under the sanitized euphemism, “abortion,” pro-abort is an apt description of you and your fellow travelers.
That you cannot bring yourself to admit openly and proudly exactly what it is you support should give you pause. I take it that you support the right of a woman to have her baby, as do I. But you also support the right to abortion. That makes you pro-abortion (a pro-abort). Be proud of that, or else get your human decency back on track.
I don’t support such a grisly and barbaric practice. Therefore, I am proudly anti-abortion and pro-life. Since I support a narrower spectrum of what is acceptable and decent, then I suppose that I am indeed, in one sense, “narrow-minded” as you say. On the other hand, my narrower spectrum of accepted human behavior is informed by, and reinforces, a much more expansive and sacred understanding of the nature and dignity of the human person at every stage of their development.
You on the other hand, Ann, have a less sacred view of human nature and dignity, which allows you to support the contract killings of 53 million babies in the womb. Your shallow understanding and value of the human person’s dignity gives rise to your broader spectrum of accepted practices in dispatching the unloved and unwanted among us.
I have found it a near-universal phenomenon that such people have themselves been devalued as human beings, and often brutalized in one manner or another. Nobody who loves themselves with an authentic love born of humility and grace could ever sanction sucking a baby into a sausage grinder. From my armchair psychologist’s perspective, countenancing such actions, championing them as rights, stems from having had one’s dignity similarly treated.
I hope and pray that you resolve the trauma from whatever injustices you have suffered that lead you to champion such a barbaric institution and label those who work to bring that institution down as, “narrow-minded”. If you do, you’ll notice that your love and your understanding of the great dignity of human nature will widen your perspective and deepen your own self-regard immeasurably.
Surrender to Love, Ann.